Perhaps the most poignant writing in the collection revolves around consent. As a prominent voice in the #MeToo era (specifically regarding her accusations against James Deen), her essays on the subject are vital. She argues that good consent shouldn't be a sexy, charged negotiation, but rather a mundane, administrative part of interaction—like checking for a peanut allergy before sharing a snack.
In a world of filtered lives, mishaps are the only things that feel real. Navigating the Mishaps stoya in love and other mishaps
Readers who enjoyed Chelsea Handler’s later, more introspective essays or Roxane Gay’s Bad Feminist will find a kindred spirit here. However, Stoya is less political and more phenomenological. She doesn’t try to represent a movement—she just reports from the front lines of her own life. If you’re put off by explicit language or unflinching descriptions of sex (not pornographic, but frank), this isn’t for you. If you’re tired of sanitized love stories, dive in. Stoya in Love and Other Mishaps: When Romance